with so much distraction happening in
your life every day how do you stay
focused one of my course friends that I
have is the ability to stay laser beam
focus highly successful people they stay
laser beam focus so how do you do that
today is not Boston Bentley but lesson
from the penthouse so I've got a flip
shot here understand that I think in
life you go through three stages in
three stages the first stage may be when
you're younger when you're still trying
to explore when you are trying to
discover yourself I believe the first
stage is you need to say a lot of yes
because you never get more in life by
saying no you can only get more in life
by saying yes say yes to the opportunity
say yes me needed a new person say yes
going to that new city you want to try a
lot of different things sometimes a lot
of young people they ask me well then
what should I focus on what what should
I do what career should I pursue or
what's my passion I say how the do
I know you haven't tried enough things
you haven't fail enough it's like if you
only have tasted certain types of food
if you only taste a hamburger let's say
for example you haven't tried Japanese
food Malaysian food right Indian food
Chinese food how do you know what's out
there how do you know what is possible
how do you know what do you like you
only try one thing you only stay in one
city you've only hung out with a few
people in your whole life so you
want to try more things it's okay
maybe it's that online business venture
that you want you try ecommerce and it
doesn't work and you try Amazon it
doesn't work and you try to fill in
marketing doesn't work it doesn't matter
what it is but you didn't try it enough
stuff I started and fail at 13
businesses 13 businesses before having
my first success because I was saying
yes to a lot of things most of them
didn't work out and that's okay but I
knew I found out what I don't want to do
if you don't know what you want to do
it's a great place to start
find out what you don't want find out
absolutely what you don't want and what
you don't want to tolerate so first
stage you need to say yes to say yes to
all kinds of opportunities knowing most
of them will fail most of them would be
a waste of time but you'll learn
something from them
and that's okay and then you want to go
too sometimes yes
so stage 2 now you are kind of try a lot
of different things right now you kind
of know what you want what you don't
want what you're good at what you're not
good at what your strengths what are
your weaknesses now you need to learn to
say yes sometimes but not all the time
kind of like dating at first you have to
pay a lot of people to find out okay
what's out there in the marketplace
right what's out there in the dating
world and then you filter you know what
now I have found that the the man the
woman that I want you kind of like now
it's more serious a more serious
relationship
now it's boyfriend/girlfriend now you
bring them to see your parents right dad
and you're getting way more selective
now you to get a one two three five
years sometimes yes then when you get
very very serious let's say when you get
married when you're now together now you
do learn how to say no no two other
temptations say no to other distractions
all these choices out there you have a
successful marriage you have to learn
how to say no no different in business
first you can say yes to a lot of crap I
know that you watch all kinds of videos
maybe my video with other people's
videos and then you listen to all kinds
of podcast you go to all kinds of events
you trying to find the answers you buy
all kinds of courses say yes that's okay
because when you try enough things then
you'll be okay you know out of all these
things I've tried these are the two or
three things that I enjoy I'm good at
then enjoy the most that I could see I
could excel doing this that's fine then
after that then when you are honing in
when you focus enough on that one or two
things ideally one thing and then you
limit eliminate all these other options
all these other distractions out there
then you need to learn how to say no I'm
gonna point imagine every single
day I get pitch some kind of opportunity
some kind of collaboration someone
asking me begging me for money someone
asking me for help every day
right because of my social media
presence if I say yes to all of them
can I stay focused obviously not
if I even say yes sometimes could I say
focus absolutely not
I need to say no to 99.99% of the things
that come across my desk at this point
in my career because I know what I want
I know my business model I know what I
stand for I know what I want to do what
I don't want to do with my time and my
time is precious so I learned to say no
he's the biggest problem people cannot
stay focused because they are really at
a stage where did you say no you're
mature enough and you're still operating
like a teenager you're steve is
saying yes to everything you have this
tiny shiny ball syndrome you're like
this this is how you operate or when
you're supposed to say sometimes yes and
you say you're looking at seeing a lot
of no when you say you feel your gut
instinct this is the opportunity I want
to pursue this one I want to focus on I
want to invest my time and resources
into this particular thing but then you
say no because you're afraid you're
scared when you should say yes
sometimes until you find that thing then
you can put all your energy into the
know people have challenges people have
problems staying focused because they're
afraid that they'll miss out they're
afraid that well what if that doesn't
work maybe I've got a plan B just in
case I have a back-up plan and in case
that doesn't work let me have a
back-up plan and in case their thing
also doesn't work I'm a back-up plan
that's why they tried two three four
five six things what you're actually
saying is you're not sure you're
uncertain about your ability to making
that work that's the difference so
that's how they stay focus go through
this ask yourself the question where you
are at maybe you need say more yes two
more opportunities don't be so afraid
say yes what's the downside what's the
worst-case scenario and then if you are
stage 2 now you need to be more
selective remember you only be effective
by being selective and then when you get
to a point where you've got so many
opportunities so many things are coming
in your way so many deal flow so many so
much abundance dance you need to learn
how to say no and you knowing now when
you say no the people some people might
not like it some people might not find
it pleasant and that's okay one big
breakthrough that I have I
realize when people email me I don't
necessarily have an email back because I
get so many emails every day
sometimes when some messages it is not
an application it's not a necessity then
you have to email back so when you don't
email back oh you know what when I made
that realization it's okay to say no
it's okay to ignore life is too short so
know what you want know your strengths
learn to say yes give you in the
beginner give you the beating stage and
let me say no if you're in at a later
stage and that's how you stay focused
what the man you can't even focus
you have all your browsers open and on
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