my name is mark Manson I am the New York
Times bestselling author of subtle art
of not giving up and I am a world-famous
blogger I think if you look at a
relationship I actually think it should
be as boring as possible and that sounds
really weird to people but if you think
about it a really happy 80 year old
couple that's been together for 60 years
the reason that they've been together
for 60 years it isn't because they took
all these private jets and had these
crazy vacations and oh my God look at
their pictures it's because that they
were able to be boring together they
were able to spend year after year
sitting around the house talking about
the same boring stuff watching TV
watching movies cooking dinner and it
went fine there was nothing exciting
there was nothing blowing up there was
no huge drama and dishes flying it's an
important thing for people to understand
because I think especially today a lot
of people we don't want to be a boring
person like we really want to be
interesting people and have interesting
lives but the problem is is that that
conflicts with what makes a relationship
good in a lot of cases a lot of cases
what makes you an interesting and
complex person makes you a really
horrible person to be with romantically
in a strange way I feel like we need to
cultivate more boredom in our lives like
boredom needs to be okay again
it needs to be seen as a good thing and
and I think it's definitely a good thing
for for relationships
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